If you still can't put this behind you, then counselling for you is the next necessary step. Your husband has since made some right moves but should also assess his drinking pattern in general. You've let this event rake up your every insecurity from the past, as if one mistake (albeit a true disappointment) has destroyed an image of perfection you've held on to for dear life. He's made that promise, you believe him and the rest of your anxiety is about you beating yourself up. The only one that matters is that your husband never again be so drunk that he has no self-control or later recollection. You're chewing on this incident for the wrong reasons. Yet, there had to be something that attracted him to her instead of me, right? I just want to move past this. He's promised to never again drink to that excess. My self-esteem has plummeted to feeling insecure and extremely unattractive. I'm not a jealous person and my head knows he was drunk and messed up. I know he loves me and honestly believe he'd never cheat. He's insisted he doesn't find her attractive. He's cried, apologized profusely, offered to never see that couple again and to get counselling. He'd been so drunk that he didn't remember acting this way, with the exception of her leaning in to kiss him and that he nearly fell over stepping away to avoid her. Though we were all pretty intoxicated, I don't know why I didn't tell him to knock it off – until the next day. Yet several months ago, at another couple's home where the wife habitually "hangs" on other men when she drinks, my husband was her target and he reciprocated her flirtations and ignored me the rest of the evening. Q: My husband of six years is my soulmate we've had an affectionate and loving relationship. If you participate or watch, you give permission to crossing the sexual boundaries you've had until now, so be prepared that this will affect your marriage in some way.Īlso, think ahead: if he is gay, how would you react? He may be drawn to experimentation for this one time only or he may be questioning his own sexual identity.
But he must answer for both your sakes, and soon. The way that he explained it, I wouldn't be very involved.Ī: Only your husband can answer that question, despite the labelling that others would apply immediately. Q: Recently, my wonderful husband of 10 years expressed his interest in pursuing a sexual experience with another man, with me present.